Cheating partners can tear apart a family, cause undue stress and trauma to children and in many cases, lead to innocent parties being financially and economically disadvantaged through no fault of their own.  It’s a horrible situation for everyone concerned, even the perpetrator of the infidelity. On the flip side of this coin, unfounded or false accusations of cheating can be equally as damaging.  That’s why it’s essential to know for sure before making an allegation or challenging a partner that you suspect of cheating. We do have experience over many years listening and understanding our customers that niggling doubts regarding a partner’s fidelity can lead to sometimes an emotional self breakdown and that breakdown of trust can be extremely difficult to rebuild.

WHY DO PARTNERS CHEAT?

This is the million dollar question.  You have invested every minute of your relationship into building a solid foundation of trust and love, and you are devoted to the other person and committed with all your heart and mind.  So what drives the other half to look for an extra marital affair?  A large majority of affairs are ignited at work, perhaps the other person has given advances or started to flirt with a colleague. Christmas parties, birthday parties and other social ‘work do’s’ play a large factor in igniting affairs especially when alcohol is introduced.  It could be the case your partner travels for their job and has failed to resist temptation when an opportunity has arisen.  The smallest spark can ignite a fire.  But one assurance in their mind is they never believe in being caught.  In fact, so assured many have this thought that confidence eventually overtakes caution and that is an inevitable downfall. Of course there are many other reasons why cheating in a relationship happens and this could not be all covered here, but now that you have those doubts what can you actually do about it?

WHAT ARE THE OPTIONS?

One of the most common things is to confide in a close friend.  It is very easy for an outsider to give their own opion on such matters but it is very different when being in that situation themselves.  One person’s view may be to simply end the relationship, and without proof could destroy years of emotional and physical investment that have been built.  Another persons view may be to confront the issue, but this may be deemed to premature and could potentially push a cheater further underground.  Whilst another persons view would be to hold back and gather more evidence before making any rash decision which on reflection is probably the better choice.  There really is no ‘expert’ in these matters and caution should be taken before any decision is ruled. In most cases obtaining such evidence so you can think about the next steps moving forward can only be achieved by surveillance of some kind.  Surveillance should not be construed as being invasive or some kind of ‘spying’.  There are many forms of surveillance with the majority used in a positive and helpful way.  In circumstances such as infidelity, using surveillance can be an ideal way of gathering the truth – for peace of mind and in some cases for closure.

FIVE QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE INVESTING IN SURVEILLANCE EQUIPMENT

Is my partner attempting to conceal his or her movements? This is often the first red flag when infidelity is at hand.  Unusual changes to established routines, unnecessary or unexplained trips away or regular lateness can be tell tale signs to watch for. Is my partner unduly cautious? People who never leave their phone unattended, have unusually long passcodes or simply get edgy when their correspondence may be accessed may just be naturally protective of their privacy - this is something everyone should respect.  But if this is a new thing, or if it goes against what is consistent for their normal behaviour, it could be an indicator that something is going on. Has my partner’s behaviour changed? When people strive to improve their appearance, invest in new clothes or simply attempt to make themselves more attractive, it’s a positive sign.  Everyone likes to look and feel their best.  But when this happens sporadically, for example if your partner has started going out regularly with a new friend or colleague and couples this with uncharacteristic attention to their appearance, you may wish to investigate further. Has my partner started telling fibs? Unusual receipts with unsatisfactory explanations, stories that don’t quite add up or general evasive behaviour and language can point to a number of problems from depression to someone planning a surprise party for you, but when all obvious explanations are ruled out, it pays to be curious. Has my sex life died?Sudden or unexplained loss of intimacy can shatter a relationship at the best of times.  There are many sane and perfectly plausible reasons for this, but in many cases, loss of sexual interest can be the result of infidelity.  Be sensitive and considerate when investigating this suspicion.

WHAT TO DO NEXT

Find out for sure... We carry a range of stock that can prove useful when investigating suspicions of infidelity.  GPS car trackers provide a solid means of establishing patterns of behaviour.  If you own the car, you are legally entitled in most cases to fit it with a tracking device. If you need to go beyond establishing whereabouts and suspicious travel patterns to confirm or put to bed any suspicions, body worn cameras, hidden spy cameras, audio recording equipment and listening devices are often invaluable, especially if infidelity is occurring in your own home. Another alternative would be to consider using the services of a Private Investigator to undertake foot and mobile surveillance.  Please bear in mind that this industry is not regulated and therefore, officially anybody can call himself or herself an investigator.  Choosing a reputable company is an absolute must so do not rush into this option lightly but you can be assured there are many decent companies available. Online Spy Shop are based in the UK and have over 10 years of experience in catching a cheating partner and would like to consider ourselves decent and reputable enough to help you confide and deploy spy equipment to help bring a satisfactory conclusion to sometimes difficult circumstances.